I recently read a disturbing article posted on Facebook about a rising trend in the US of sodomy as a method of bullying or hazing. Three members of the high school wrestling team apparently jumped on a younger boy and took turns sodomizing him with a pencil. Obviously he came home distraught and told his dad who happened to be the principal.
I can imagine the horror the dad felt. I’d freak out if that happened to my child.
However, that’s not the most disturbing part of the story.
Instead of punishing the perpetrators, the whole town came together and started punishing the VICTIM and his dad. The students started harassing the victim relentlessly online and in school that he was forced to stop going to school. While the adults in town turned their wrath on the victim’s father forcing him to resign his position.
The townspeople had the gall to tell the victims that bullying is a part of growing up and they had to suck it up.
The article goes on to say that this is not an isolated case and makes a partial list of similar instances occurring in different schools.
(Read the full story here: http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2013-06-20/sodomy-hazing-leaves-13-year-old-victim-outcast-in-colorado-town.html )
Bullying, in itself, is already reprehensible. It damages children’s self-esteem and has long-lasting effects on a person’s development. Even being called a bad name can affect a child who’s in the midst of discovering their identity and their place in the world.
This case goes beyond bullying.. this is RAPE. In the real world, this is a huge crime that is punishable by a lengthy prison term. How is it acceptable in any other setting?
Something must have gone terribly wrong in a community that would tell the victim of rape to “Suck it up, it’s part of growing up.”
I live in a third-world country. A country that some people look down on as a poor and “backward” society. However, I’m proud to say that in our elementary and high schools, bullying is severely punished. Hazing does occur in some colleges but is secreted because it is severely frowned upon by the community. Sodomy as a form of hazing or bullying is unheard of. And if it does happen and the story breaks, I’m sure a huge backlash would land on the PERPETRATOR, NOT THE VICTIM, as it should be in any civilized society.
The fact that it is a trend in high schools throughout the US, and apparently supported by some (thankfully not all) small towns, is sickening.
I feel for the victims who were sexually violated at such a young age and in such a public setting. I feel for the shocking aftermath of their experience where instead of being comforted and rallied around, they are ostracized and ridiculed.
I also hope this atrocious trend will stop. Immediately if possible. No child deserves to live through that.